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With Leadership
  • Look to your institution leaders and immediate supervisor for guidance. Respect their authority - they know the mission of the institution and how you can help achieve that mission.
  • Sometimes position assignments need to be adapted, or even changed, after the arrival of a volunteer. Circumstances may change - or personnel - or they discover you have other skills more desperately needed - or your skills do not match their needs. Changes need to be negotiated, but do your best to adapt and fit into the mission of the institution.
With Colleagues and/or Students
  • Healthy social relationships are encouraged - friendship evangelism underlies spiritual outreach and is the most interesting and stimulating part of a mission experience.
  • Maintain a high standard of conduct. Dating and time-monopolizing relationships usually distract from the main purpose of the work you were called to do. Because of this and also the cultural implications in many countries, single dating is discouraged, whether with fellow volunteers or the local people. However, group activities are very rewarding. Colleagues/students will be delighted to take you to places of cultural interest and show you the countryside.
With Roommates
  • Make your “home,” to the greatest degree possible, a haven where you and your roommate(s) can rest and regenerate your spiritual and physical energy.
  • Schedule adequate time for sleep and relaxation. Working and witnessing are quite demanding. You must maintain your physical and mental health.
  • Respect your roommate’s space, time, and belongings.
  • Clean up after yourself (especially the bathroom, kitchen, other common spaces)
  • Never allow crumbs or overflowing garbage as both attract unwelcome insects - even cockroaches.
  • Keep your room neat.
  • Do not put food, hair, feminine hygiene products, or other questionable items down any drain or toilet. In many places, the drains are small.
Visitors
  • Consider first your roommate’s needs and feelings before inviting guests to your “home.” Overnight guests should be a rare experience, and never invite strangers or members of the opposite sex, alone.
  • Ask your supervisor for guidance, and about local curfews, so that you may live within the protection and respect of your colleagues and administrators.
Telephone/Email Bills
  • Charges for long-distance calls and/or email messages may take four to six weeks. Post a phone log near the phone to keep track of who makes the charges, and the dates.
  • Pay these bills right away. In some countries, telephone services are disconnected without advance warning if bills are not paid, and getting a phone line reconnected can take many hours/days and costs hundreds of dollars.
Pets
  • Check with your supervisor for sure, but usually keeping pets in your housing is not allowed. Besides the potential problem of a pet “making use” of your accommodation, returning to your homeland with a pet is usually too costly and difficult. The alternative, of trying to find a home to adopt your pet, is seldom easy either.
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